Tirukural

CHAPTER 80

Testing Fitness for Friendship

791

Nothing is more grievous than friendship formed without first testing, for once adopted, it cannot be abandoned by the faithful.§

792

Unless it begins with testing and proving, friendship may end in mortal sorrow.§

793

Before you befriend him, consider a man’s character, family background, faults and faithful allies.§

794

Pay any price to possess the friendship of well-born men who cannot bear rebuke and shame.§

795

Seek out and befriend those who, speaking out, move you to repent, reprove your wrongdoing and teach you the right ways.§

796

There is a benefit even in misfortune, for it is the rod with which a man may measure the loyalty of friends.§

797

To give up friendship with fools and quit their company— such loss is said to be a man’s greatest gain.§

798

Don’t dwell on thoughts that dim your spirit. Don’t befriend those who flee you in affliction.§

799

Even in the hour of death, the thoughts of friends who left you in your hour of need will hurt the heart.§

800

Hold tight to friendship with pure men; let go of unfit fellows, even by paying them off.§