How to Make Up Your Mind

Today Gurudeva answers the question, "How do I make up my mind?" He explains the best place to go for advice, and what to do when you are "in doubt."

Unedited Transcript:

Today at Kauai Aadheenam. It is March 15th. Greetings everyone!

It is darshan time. Our ashram doors are open. Today is 'Visitor's Day' here at Kauai Aadheenam and tomorrow and the next day we are on retreat. So, I will not be giving a message tomorrow or the next day.

You might enjoy our first video, our little video clips. We are trying. Let us know how you like it. We all were very happy that you enjoyed, some of you out there in cyberspace, the little talk about gossip. It is very, very important.

Also, we have here from Toronto, asking about how to perform puja at home. The beautiful little book which we created, 'Loving Ganesha', has in its Resource Section the meaning of puja, how to perform a Ganesha puja. So, go for it. It is really wonderful. Actually, the book is not little. It weighs about two or three pounds and also teaches you how to get in touch with the God Ganesha, who drank up all the milk in three cities, who performed the 'Milk Miracle' that even science could not figure out.

The question has come up, "I have problems making up my mind. How do I make up my mind?"

Well, if you are in that state where you can not make up your mind, then go to somebody who you can trust. If you are not sure about what to do or what not to do, when in doubt, do nothing. Go to someone you can trust. Now who would that be? One of your relatives, of course. Your mother, your father, your aunt, your uncle, your grandfather, your grandmother on both sides. Don't go to friends, fair weather friends that are there with you when things are going good and you never see them if you are having problems.

Why will relatives who are close to you, and who have known you all your life give you good advice? Because they want you to be successful, innately. They feel like if you go wrong or you do something you shouldn't do, that reflects on them. They can't get it out of their mind. They feel ashamed. Whereas, friends and acquaintances that you meet in school or here and there and everywhere, may lead you in the wrong direction.

So, if you are a person that cannot make up your mind, have somebody help you make up your mind for you. The best people to go to are those who are related to you. Now, maybe you don't get along well with them. Maybe they are going to tell you something you don't want to hear; Well, maybe they are going to give you good advice also. There is no great technique or great yoga practice to teach somebody how to make up their mind. When in doubt, do nothing.

Well, that is good for today everyone, and we hope that you also have a very nice retreat tomorrow and the next day, reflecting on the past few days and reflecting on what you are going to do in the days to come. In a sense, making up your mind for the future. Draw close to those who love you, who have been with you most of your life. They will never let you down.

In a few days we'll be back again. Our ashram doors will be open and our cyberspace doors will be open. We'll see you then.

Aum Namah Sivaya.